Nollywood actress, Dakore Akande writes on the ordeal she goes through keeping house, children, marriage and career:
"My
day was crazy the other day. Murphy’s
law was in full effect. It was Dasola’s 1st day at day care, I had to get my
eldest, Yomski, ready for school. Our driver of 2 years left suddenly so I had
to do the school run in addition to getting my day started with an early
meeting at 11am...
“I
can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” is my mantra at times like
this, so with a prayer in my heart we were on our way.
I
dropped Yoms off, then took Dasi to day care which was a bit difficult for both
of us (being her first time). While she was happily preoccupied with something
the administrator was showing her I took the cue to tip-toe out the crying
started. Starting day care is an important transition for babies. I am watching
to see how Dasi settles in, but I know there may be some changes in her
behaviour as she gets used to her new
routine.
With
that done I made my way back home to shower quickly and dash off for a meeting
I was running late for then the unexpected happened. My car just ground to a
halt halfway there!
Thankfully
my husband was on his way to his own meeting so he was able to rescue me, but,
since I was driving myself, I had to figure out what to do because I couldn’t
possibly leave my car there, Naija la wa!
Just
before I left the house, my cook says
the dreaded words, “Madam gas don finish” so I gave him some money to get
more, but that plan had to quickly take
a back seat because I now needed him to come to meet us so he could wait with
the car until the mechanic got there.
With
that my husband had to reschedule his meeting so he could drop me off at mine
and so that was it, everything back to normal somewhat right? Wrong!
I
rushed into the meeting apologizing profusely because I had everyone waiting
for me, including an 80 year-old lady so I had to seriously kun le and explain
my ordeal. Thankfully everyone was gracious and so we carried on and had a
great meeting.
I had
my brother Timini come to meet me so I could go to pick up Dasi and I was
running late because her pick up is 2
o’clock and it was 2.15 already!
Another
mad dash, picked her up, then picked Yoms and got home. Phew!
I
then proceeded to inquire on the status of my up till then trusty jeep and I
was certain it was something that could be fixed relatively quickly but shock
and horror! the mechanic came back with more bad news….apparently my engine had
knocked so I would need to buy a new “tokunbo” engine. The price? 350-400
thousand Naira!
I
know what you might be thinking, it’s not a problem because I’m a famous
celebrity right? And I totally understand that.
Five
years ago, before the babies yes, no problem but now, with so many
responsibilities a lot of deliberation has to occur before money is just doled
out so hopefully you can understand that.
On
top of dealing with all this, I still had to take care of the kids and start
preparing their nutritious meals for the next day, chasing my toddler to do her
homework when all she really wants to do is play, deal with deadlines for my
blog post, reading scripts and tending to my extended family issues.
There’s
a lot more that happened but I will spare you all, I’m sure you get the picture
by now. Being a working mom and wife is not easy at all even with help and I
shudder to imagine how much more difficult it is without any help at all.
Even
being a housewife is not easy, I was an inadvertent one for a while especially
after my 1st born but I quickly realized it wasn’t for me, I need an outlet for
my creative energy to be truly balanced.
I
hope I’m not scaring any of my readers that are mothers-to-be but I hope you
can appreciate the fact that it’s no walk in the park. It’s a joyful, special
and fulfilling thing as well and I am truly grateful to the Almighty for my
life because it’s what I always wanted.
It
makes me truly appreciate the sacrifices my Mom made to mould me into the woman
I am today as well as my four younger.
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more support on pregnancy, new-born and toddler visit
www.musmworldafrica.com today
Credit: Dakoremumsworld blog
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